Saturday, May 8, 2010

Hi, My Name is Carol... (OOTDs)

So, many of you won't know this about me, but for many years, I worked in the public health/social services sector, doing HIV prevention with substance abusing populations.  Specifically, addicts in recovery (worked with them in substance abuse treatment facilities) and active users, through outreach, etc.  Those years were some of the most fulfilling of my professional life - I really loved that job, and you'd understand exactly how much I loved it, if you knew how little I was paid, and how little I got to shop (couldn't really afford much, beyond the occasional purchase at Target) while I was working in that field.  But it was amazing.  I met and worked with incredible people and learned so much about addictions, HIV, immune systems, and sexually transmitted infections.  And the best part was that the job was super fun.  I mean, as fun as shopping with Kelly-fun.  (Now you're starting to get how much I loved this job, right?)

So, when I say that I realize I may have a habit, well...suffice it to say, I may have a habit.  I probably do have a problem.  My name is Carol, and I'm a shopaholic.  I was in recovery for many years, with just few slips off the wagon here and there, but in the last year...well...erm, let's say, full relapse.  My drugs of choice are shoes, handbags, pretty clothes...the last time I used was yesterday...

So, here's the thing.  I need to stop shopping.  For a good long while.  At least until the Anniverary Sale, when I will most assuredly binge, so consider this harm-reduction.  And um...there's one thing in between now and then, that I will probably spend a little money on. But that's it!  Honest!  Cross my heart!  I have a LOT of really great clothing, and I am going to make it work. (God, I love Tim Gunn...)  Oh, and there's this 3.1 Philip Lim tee that I'm going to try and pick up on Monday, but that's not really shopping - that's philanthropy - Nordstrom will be donating all post-cost proceeds to  OCA, a national organization dedicated to advancing the social, political and economic well-being of Asian Pacific Americans.  I mean, those are my peeps, right?  It's practically a moral imperative that I buy this shirt...(note, dear readers, this is addiction in action...frightening, isn't it?).

Call me out on it, ladies.  If you see me showing up in OOTDs with "new arrival" type stuff, I need you to confront me with the truth (it'll set me free, apparently).  I'm going to stop being lazy (by using what I have and not buying new stuff) and I'm going to be green (by using what I have and not buying new stuff) and I'm going to be responsible (by using what I have and not buying new stuff).

That being said, Kathryn is here in San Diego for a couple days to help me with Rowan's birthday party, which means more side-by-side photos coming up in the next few days and pictures of Kathryn's amazing party-planning handiwork.  Meanwhile, here are our OOTDs:

Dress: Twenty8Twelve, (similar here)
Necklace: J. Crew (similar here and here)
Shoes: Me Too flats, Nordstrom (similar here and here)
Belt: Brass Plum belt, Nordstrom (similar here)

In Anthropologie! (Fashion Valley, San Diego)

Top: Garden Collection, H&M
Skirt: Garden Collection, H&M
Shoes: Thora Sandal, Tory Burch


  1. That dress is so pretty, I just love it and it fits you perfectly!
    It's hard not to get carried away... I can say without doubt that my shopping hobby/addiction has grown quite a bit since I started reading more blogs and getting more ideas - plus everyone is so ready to help (enable?) others with coupon codes and sale warning. ugh. it is hard- I do what I can to keep you in line! ha ha!

  2. You too always manage to look lovely. I love that dress on you.

    I've totally gone a little shop crazy in the past few months, thanks to blogging. And I'm trying to cut back now, but my mind seems to tell me that things purchased off Ebay doesn't count.

    Have a wonderful Mother's Day weekend!

  3. Hi, my name is Gemma and I too, have a problem. I have just put myself on a shopping ban for a month, but it's only been a day and I've already slipped. It was a very cute sweater and it was only $13 from $89. But I promise I won't slip again.

    This blogging has really been bad for me, too, but it's such a great place to "meet" others and just see how stylish everyone is. I love both yours and Kathryn's OOTD! It's making me want to shop H&M and Gilt! But I won't!

    Carol: Sounds like you had a wonderful, interesting job. I'm sure you made a difference in a lot of people's lives!

    Have a great time planning Rowan's party and I can't wait to see more side by sides!

    Happy Mother's Day to both of you!!!

  4. OMG, Carol. I think we must have Vulcan mind-melded the past couple of days. Since I met Kathryn the other day, I've been feeling guilty about shopping so much lately that I ended up starting a new blog last night!!!!! It's still a work in progress, but check it out the first post from last night - totally the same sentiment!

    But I need to say that I absolutely love that dress on you! It's simple but gorgeous and fits perfectly. I am amazed you got it on Gilt - I'm always afraid to order from those sites because I can't be sure of the fit. SCORE for you!

    Kathryn - there's that Garden top I heart so much. It really is just so pretty on you! Love the skirt too!

    Have fun and enjoy Rowan's party!

  5. Carol, you look beautiful in that dress - fits you perfect! I hear ya on the shopping ban! I'm right there with ya - this month on my blog is Keep Your Money May and I'm not spending on anything except necessities. It's been a very good experiment so far, and makes me really think!

  6. I love that dress, Carol! :swipes:

    Hello, my name is Tien and I am a shopaholic. I won't stop picking up new lovelies, but I need to return to the days of only buying things appropriate for me, not because I want something new on the blog. Plus, I miss all the little projects I used to do to make something old new again. Too easy to buy it new!

  7. Happy Mother's Day to you both! I know you have lots of pretty goodies in your closet already, and I can't wait to see you wearing them!

    P.S. - it took me a minute to realize that Oh Hello Friend is a store, and not you asking to borrow something, lol.

  8. I love that dress Carol, it is amazing!
    Mmm, I so feel you on the shopping addiciton. It is a little scary that I can't go more than a week without making a purchase without feeling antsy! Good luck with refraining until the half-yearly sale! :)